Often times the hardest part of a surgery is the recovery process. Asking for help might be a difficult challenge, but it will help you in more ways than just getting dinner on the table. Learn how our guest author learned to keep her spirits up by asking for companionship – what she needed most.
Asking For Help During Recovery Without Having to Actually Ask!
I was recovering from surgery due to a broken ankle in which I had broken all three bones and had to have surgery to repair. It was a long recovery (as in months) and mine ended up being longer than they expected due to some muscle loss. During this time my family and friends were great. I didn’t have to ask for help but what I do wish I had asked for was for friends to take turns coming over and just talking with me or taking me to lunch.
When helping others we tend to make sure that they have meals, that they have transportation to and from appointments, someone to help with children, etc. What we don’t realize (and I never did until I was the patient) is that people who are recovering get very lonely. That loneliness then turns to depression rather quickly. I remember being so sick of looking at the same walls in my home. I spent a majority of the time on the couch, which is where I also slept. It was too painful to sleep in my bed as I had to keep my leg elevated to keep swelling down which kept the pain down – so the couch and I became very close.
I also had a very hard time not being able to do the things I normally do every day. Everything was a struggle because whatever I did do, I did on crutches with using only one leg. I know that it sounds like it would be a nice break (no pun intended) from every day life but it really was not. You can only lounge on the couch, watch t.v., read magazines so many days/nights before you start craving your routine back.
I never wanted to ask my friends for too much as I felt they were already doing so much. So, I never asked for them to take me out or come over and just hang out with me. If there is ever a next time I will surely speak up.
If you are recovering and aren’t sure how to ask, my suggestion would be to simply ask your friend if they would like to come over and watch a movie and hang out. Or would they like to go to lunch and offer to treat them for taking you. This way it doesn’t seem so much like you are asking so you aren’t feeling guilty. It becomes a win, win for all.
Written by: Michelle Monroe Morton
About the Author: Michelle Morton is a DIY mompreneur who inspires others to simplify their lives. She doesn’t just talk the talk, she walks the walk and her daily life is living proof of that. She is a different voice with a different message. Once a single mother, to a stay-at-home mother and now a momprenuer, but always a mother, Michelle dearly understands the challenges of being organized, living simply and making the time to achieve her personal and professional goals. After many years of letting her personal life take over and get in the way of achieving her professional goals, she decided once and for all to take control. Now it’s her chance to help you! She does not claim to have all the answers, but she will certainly share what works for her and what does not. Michelle will share her simple tips on conquering chaos, saving you space, time and money – TODAY. She has decided to combine her heartfelt passions and be a voice of change! With style and a special savvy for decluttering and getting organized, she hopes to be a support system for those juggling single parenting (both moms and dads). She also wants to help others who want to become entrepreneurs to achieve their personal and professional goalsSharing is Caring!